making the wedding gown decision

30 Jul

i know i said i’d be away, but blogosphere: i wish i knew how to quit you.

so… i’ve made a decision on the gown. and i’m wearing the blue one. yeeeeee.

i took my sweet time deciding, because i can talk myself out of just about anything, as you can see from my list of initial reservations about it. i’m an analyzer. but even having questions in my mind like “will i regret not wearing white?,” and “will i be mortified in 20 years?,” it’ still feels like the most special article of clothing i’ve ever worn, and it just makes me very, very happy to think about and put on. and so, we have a clear winner.

things that helped me decide:

  1. you ladies and your effusive comments (thanks again!)
  2. reading all over the internets that blue gowns have been traditional since the middle ages, symbolizing fidelity between spouses and eternal love, and that that’s where the concept of wearing “something blue” comes from. also, that white gowns originally symbolized wealth (and not purity) is a bit of a turn-off… and really, i’m not looking to say anything about my monetary or hymenal status with my gown. but i do like the idea of blue being a message about my commitment to david, and his to me. he liked that idea as well.
  3. this sage piece of advice from an old friend: “i‘m all for what makes you feel most bride-ly, white or not. it should feel like the only dress you ever want to wear ever.” and it does feel that way.
  4. this post on offbeat bride about weddings being like a time capsule. i was concerned about whether or not i would look back on the photos and still think that i looked good, but ariel’s take on representing who you are NOW was really one of those obvious points that i really needed someone to say for me to get it. for instance, i love that my mom was rocking the hippie dress in her early 70s wedding, and that she wore what made her feel fabulous when she was 23. and that my dad had long hair and a handlebar mustache. too cool.
  5. that, when i finally got over the anxiety of showing my family, they flipped. the eff. out. in a wildly positive way. my mother is extremely supportive, but honest with me as well. she would tell me in a tactful and sensitive way if she didn’t love it, but she straight-up squee-d and said “oh, honey, this is YOUR dress.” i was an inch away from making the commitment, but having that reaction from the people who are dearest to me really sealed the deal.

answers to the questions i was asking myself:

  1. does it feel bridal? – yes! it’s so special. will everyone know i’m the bride? yes, because no on else will be wearing such a crazy, fabulous gown.
  2. will i be thrilled or embarassed when i see it in 10 years? 25? – who cares? i don’t know what i’ll like in the future. i may as well be ecstatic now.
  3. are the folds in the front too weird? what about how the overlay panels meet in the rear? – they are fabulous, and anyone who doesn’t think so can suck it.
  4. does it jibe with the venue? – i love it. royal blue could look kind of boss with the butter yellow walls, and we’ll make the decor work with it.
  5. do i like it better than the cheaper white gown i already have? – oh yes. i love this one, but didn’t connect with it in the same way that i have with the blue one. i’ve tried the blue one on multiple times, and i still want to put it on every time i think about it.
  6. will my grandma give me a hard time about it? – probably. when speaking to my mom last night, she said “you might want to warn your grandmother, so she’s not shocked on the day of. she might have no problem with it, but she’s old. old people can be conservative.” she’ll live.
  7. will daveed like it? – he hasn’t seen it, but i spoke to him about it last night. he doesn’t care what i wear, as long as i like it and feel good in it. love him.

so in conclusion, yay. and you know what? i’ll just wear a sassy little white dress to the rehearsal!

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5 Responses to “making the wedding gown decision”

  1. liz @ chic on the cheap July 31, 2009 at 4:37 am #

    i’m thrilled!

  2. anna and the ring August 2, 2009 at 3:59 pm #

    Wonderful!

  3. WestAussieWedding August 6, 2009 at 10:19 am #

    Go You! I’m so glad you decided to go with the blue!

  4. bazookastuff August 6, 2009 at 2:36 pm #

    thanks, ladies! i’m so excited. 🙂

  5. Bridechka August 17, 2009 at 5:34 pm #

    Yay! Exciting!

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